I started full-time health coaching as a mompreneur two years ago. My goal is not only to help other mompreneurs achieve the healthy lifestyle they want, but also to fully embody my best healthy lifestyle.
Turns out that running a business, raising humans, taking care of my health, and still feeling whole at the end of the day wasn’t as easy as I thought it was going be. I was my own boss, so why was the balance feeling so hard??!! It became clear that I had to find a different balance in my life that I hadn’t needed prior to being an entrepreneur. I was exploring this and then….
COVID-19 hit and I felt like a 2x4 had hit me right upside the head. Any semblance of normalcy or balance went out the window.
People were talking about getting hobbies, and the biggest hobby I picked up was organizing quarantine activities for a 10 and 8 year old. Keeping up with all of the schooling and my business left zero time for hobbies.
The first 6 weeks of quarantine, I kept up with everything as best I could, figuring I could do anything for 6 weeks. But then 6 weeks turns into 8 weeks, turns into 10 weeks, turns into 5 months. And all my coping strategies weren’t working, or I just stopped doing them.
The ONLY things I have kept constant in this pandemic were/are daily exercise and meal planning. And regularly freaking out about school.🙅🏻♀️
The thing is: all the struggles of mompreneur life that I was feeling before COVID were still there, just exacerbated and weighed down by the load of a pandemic.
One day after my second cup of coffee and the din of cartoons in the background, it dawned on me that if I really wanted to keep myself healthy, whole, and sane, I needed to change my mindset and my habits. Here are things that are working and might work for you too.
This is not some hippie dippy nonsense I am tossing out here. I legitimately was vibrating low and it kept my spirits and creativity down.
I spent a lot of time on social media comparing myself to other coaches and other mompreneurs, feeling like I should be “bossing up” and taking life by the balls. I also spent a ton of time watching the news. Not exactly a recipe for contentedness.
To top it off, most of the social media scrolling and news watching happened later at night. You can only imagine how my sleep was faring from that.
Some days during this pandemic are exceptionally garbage. I know we are all feeling that rollercoaster of emotion. On the days where I hit the big lows, I need a vibration boost.
Before pandemic, meditating, journaling, and reading personal development books was my JAM. I would meditate for 10-15 minutes every day with some quiet music in the background and then journal for 10 minutes.
But once I was in pandemic mode, I couldn’t quiet my mind to save my life. I mean, my mind was so noisy that if you were in there, you would’ve lost hearing. And journaling started making me feel like I was in a bad adolescent Judy Bloom book. Dear diary...
And try as I might, certain personal development books that I would normally LOVE were nails on a chalkboard, shining a light on all the ways I was really fucking it up.
If you feel the same way, there is nothing wrong with you. It may just be that your previous self-care habits aren’t cutting it anymore and you need to reassess what will fuel your soul and fill your cup.
There are nonnegotiables in our lives that are more external. Feed and cloth our children, pay our bills, show up to work, etc. But what about the nonnegotiables we have for ourselves? These are the things that you need to get done for yourself to feel as close to whole, healthy, and ok as possible.
What seemed like a nonnegotiable before (picking up your daily Starbucks, or listening to a podcast on your commute, or even massages) can’t happen right now. The list of nonnegotiables must be redefined.
Redefining your nonnegotiable list acknowledges that things are NOT the same, but that you are still a human with a body and soul to take care of. This is self-care at its best right now.
Here is my nonnegotiable list:
Seem like a lot? Not really when I broke it down. Sometimes I combine my alone time and targeted exercise by going for a run. Sometimes I combine my personal development with a walk. These are the things that are keeping me healthy mentally and physically.
That above list is what helps me show up for myself, my family, and my business on the days that feel so damn hard.
What I want to clarify here is that this is not a SHOULD list. These are activities that my body and soul need and crave, so I create the opportunity and time to get them done, without judgement or resentment.
Create your list of nonegotiables so you can begin to set up a routine and boundaries to protect what YOU need. Your list will look different than mine, but as you are creating it, ask yourself the following questions:
This is a time of high stress that is no joke. We aren’t meant to parent, teach, run businesses, and maintain our health in a solitary bubble. We need community and we aren’t living in that way right now.
Sometimes the best thing we can do for ourselves is get a therapist and talk those feeling out so that we can start to lighten the load. Don’t carry the load on your own! I have seen a therapist many times in my life and it has always helped me relieve the pressure and give me coping strategies.
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